Week Three feat. Marybeth Bonfligio

Marybeth's bio reads:

“I am a writer and creative human who believes that art saves. Self expression is hope and connection is health. I believe writing is a powerful and profound forms of art. I don’t believe in rules around creation. My joy and purpose is in holding space for others to write and express themselves, to practice liberation and connection to community. I have also spent the last decade diving deeply into ancestral work; storytelling, culture reclaiming, and honoring the history before immigration/assimilation. I do believe that if we desire to connect with our past blood, we can do better in the present, we can learn to reform, celebrate, and do better for our children and the children to come. When we are connected, we are more benevolent, healthier humans. I have learned so much about creation, passion, love, anger, trauma, and injustice by digging deep into my own histories. 

I have an *almost* MFA from Antioch University in creative non-fiction / writing for social change, but got pregnant - and considering it almost impossible for a pregnant women/mother to finish grad school, I dropped out one semester short to have my first daughter. BUT. Becoming a mother transformed my writing and my life, it is one of my most beloved belongings, to be here for them, to belong to them, to be a part in their story. On this journey I became a copywriter, a midwife, yoga teacher, herbalist, screenplay writer, writing teacher, + tarot reader/intuitive coach/ guide. I teach workshops online and in-person. 

I am currently writing a book with the working title :: Blood + Belonging, which is inspired by my magical and deeply complex Sicilian ancestry, my pilgrimage to ancestral land, the connection between spirit and food and the trading-in of culture, connection + relations for whiteness, capitalism + The American Dream.

I live in the pacific northwest, on stolen land of the Chinookan people. I love and cherish this bio-region and spend as much time as I can outside with my three wild and fierce daughters, my partner and a really big dog.


In this call, we discuss:

» Ancestral impoverishment, re-mything, and epigenetics
» Belonging and not-belonging, "taken by longing"
» Grief, rage, and falling apart together
» Ancestry and identity
» Divination, tarot, and pre-language symbols
» The focus of hyper individualism of western culture and it's affects on motherhood
» Connection to the land and how it informs our relationship to ancestry
» Nourishment and mothering ourselves
» Writing, etymology, and the alphabet
» Sexuality and motherhood
» Rape culture and mothering 


This call's handy list of resources:

The Spell of the Sensuous by David Abram
The Alphabet Versus the Goddess by Leonard Shlain
Storycatcher by Christina Baldwin
The Primal Wound by Nancy Newton Verrier

What to Remember When Waking by David Whyte

Nirmala Nataraj